Quick Post

Got an question with regards to BGR, and the plot goes like this:

2 guys of different personality. One was willing not to buy his own thing even when his hp is on the verge of dying and spend the money on you. The other is one who always say his hand are tight but in fact the money he has use it to buy his own things such as MP3 and etc.

So, being a guy who do you think is a better guy?

Having read this, i'm pretty sure 99.9% would have unanimously agreed that the former is a better boyfriend. Someone who's willing to sacrifice, willing to give, how bad can he be right? And so, my question to you all would be that, does this factor determines how good he is entirely?

To me, how good a guy is will depends on how and what you are looking at. The guy who may have been nicer when it comes to money, may be the one who probably gonna cheat on you. Yet the guy who's more self-centered when it comes to money, may be the one who in fact loves you the most. Sounds confusing or that i'm going in circles?

My point is simple. Look at the bigger picture of things. Just take a good look at our own fingers. Is it all of the same length? And does it mean that since my index finger is shorter than yours, my thumb is bound to be shorter too?

In this particular situation, i'm proposed to judge 2 personalities based on the factor of money. You can also argue that why do the latter have to always claim to be broke, and yet able to afford stuff and gadgets for himself, and for this, he's probably a liar by heart? And a good guy shouldn't lie ain't it?

Given the fact about this 2 particular guys, let me propose something in conjunction with this particular money issue. Would you be more touched by the guy who is always willing to sacrifice getting stuff for himself which he should have, just to be able to afford stuff for you, or be more surprised knowing that the guy who always claim to be broke, suddenly stopped getting stuff for himself, just to let you have the luxury of owning things you wanted?

To each his own. Some gals might never felt it's important for her guy to be always getting stuff for her, all that matters is the love given to her. Yet some could just be a little materialistic, and all that matters is how much her guy is willing to give.

Before i start to digress too much, the answer to the question would be rather easy. Just ask yourself, given the fact that you know this 2 particular guys, how would you see the both of them? The former is giver, and the latter is a taker?

I came across 2 quotes and maybe they could be of some good reference:

"The measure of love is when you love without measure. - In life there are very rare chances that you'll meet the person you love and loves you in return. So once you have it don't ever let it go, the chance might never come your way again."

"It's better to lose your pride to the one you love, than to lose the one you love because of pride. - We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding fault with those we already love, when instead we should be perfecting the love we give."

So in my humble opinion, i'll pick the former as a better guy. Reason for that? To give is a lot tougher than to take. But on the high note, don't just judge someone based on a particular fact. Staring at the digit '6' on the die all the time, would have made you ignorant about the fact that dice have six sides, not just one.

Bottom line to BGR, what matters to you most, may just be what doesn't concern him/her most. What you expect most, is often what he/she expects least. What you hope for, might just be what he/she ain't looking for. And lastly, who and what you perceive he/she is, may just be what he/she is not.

Before i wrap this post up, let me just do a few paragraphs about my trainings so far.

Had a 4 day 3 night outfield over at Tekong as mentioned before, and it was something that drained quite a bit out of everyone. The extreme situations of unwanted heavy downpours and the overwhelming humid weather took quite a toll too.

The fieldcamp started with a 4km fast march, with FBO(Full Battle Order) from the jetty to our harbour site. And i'm super lucky enough to be the one assigned to carry Law tube as my secondary weapon on top of SAR 21. Speaking about Law tube, it's something i often hear from the rest, that how bulky and useless it is to be carrying it. And trust me, the only thing that saved me from have multiple concussions due to the constant swinging of the Law tube from the back, was the helmet i had.

Day 1 was navigation under instructor guidance and this fateful navigation earned my section a 2-hour late book out and a confinement. Not sure if it's gonna be enforced on us, but that's how we were told. Reason being that we didn't get our basics right and we took too many stops when we are on the move to the checkpoints.

Day 2 was navigation without supervision and all the sections were split into 2 groups. My group of 3 came in first for the whole wing, after 3 day checkpoints and 2 night checkpoints. And for this we kinda redeemed ourselves in a way, and earned 100 merit points, which can be accumulated and use for nights-out, day-off or canteen breaks and such.

Day 3 was entirely on section movement drills and night ambush. Of course my section was once again the victim of scrutiny. Our Platoon Commander said our section is probably the worst and is performing under-par. He also warned us that he wouldn't hesitate to put 7 of us out of course if he has to, if we do not show better performance. It's hard to explain why he felt that my section is not performing over here, but it's just a case of blacksheeps around in the section.

Day 4 was the Section Battle course where 2 of us held Section Commander roles and was assessed for the section movement drills taught to us. Once again, it wasn't that well done. But we got it over with and the last 4km fast march back to Tekong jetty under extreme hot weather almost knocked out some of them.

The outfield ended with numerous scars on my hand and bruises all over my knees. And before i could really start complaining about it, i'll be having another fieldcamp this coming Thursday and Friday at Marsiling. Time is definitely something not our side. The whole of last week, including the fieldcamp, i never had sleeps over 4 hours. And of course, my cough is still hanging around.

I need longer weekends, hopefully able to hang out with friends just to unwind myself. Not gonna be easy especially looking at my training program, i'll be occupied all the way to June, even over my birthday. The only thing i can hope for is lesser weekends burn-out due to trainings on Saturday.

17th June, my social night. But i know i'm gonna have trouble finding a gal for the night. Guess i'll just have to be thick-skinned enough asking around when the time comes.

Alright, that's all i have. Hope everyone is doing well and fine. Haven't been in contact with friends for some time. My social circle is shrinking at quite a fast rate. Before i know it, maybe it's gonna be me, myself and jeri.

Till then.