Replacement Lover

I had a chat with a friend of mine last night and she was basically into the topic of being a replacement of someone. A replacement who sacrificed time and school just to be a replacement for someone. Probably there's more than just that, for the very fact that it's often the case that you will do almost anything for that someone you fancy. More than often, when you are not needed as accompany, you are basically alone and left sulking at your own pitiful state. That's when you start to question your own value and ponder over the need to be just a replacement.

There is the show Replacement Killer, how about Replacement Lover? It's probably the highest box office sold out movie, which is playing everyday in our daily lives.

A plot whereby someone who you without knowing came into your normal routine life and created a big impact. Someone whom you start to realize that he/she has been into some relationship problems. You started paying more attention to the person's sorrows and lend more than just a listening ear to him/her. As time passed, you inevitably become very conscious of the person's whereabouts, and tend to worry doubly for him/her when you see him/her do stupid things to him/herself, like drinking overly, skipping meals, isolating and getting into trouble.

You start to spend more time with the person, hoping to provide some company and drive away some unwanted thoughts from him/her. You might even act like a clown, buying anything he/she joked about getting it, constant reminding him/her to have regular meals, go drinking with him/her even when you can't hold your liquor well, neglecting your studies, work, family and friends, all just to be someone there for the person. And that's without knowing falling for the person.

The person will then inevitably starts to rely quite a lot on you. He/she will be expecting you to be always there for him/her, doing all the reminding of stuff, and of course to accompany him/her. Despite the fact that it may appears to be quite an unwanted act to do, you will be more than happy to be just who he/she wanted you to be. You wouldn't mind if it's skipping of school just to accompany him/her for 5-10 minutes because he wanted to get something for his/her partner, or waited for hours just because he/she was held up with his/her partner and your heart melt and forgave him/her for the long wait, because he/she came with a sad look and you know you wouldn't want to be petty about the wait but instead be more concern about what happened to him/her.

No matter how boring the movie it is, you will enjoy it as long as you're watching it with him/her. No matter how bored you are just to sit down and watch him/her playing something which doesn't interest you, you will still do it. No matter how tired you are, you will still put up a sober front just to be able to accompany him/her for a longer period of time. No matter how broke you are, you will still find means and ways so as not to restrict yourself from not seeing him/her just because you are broke. No matter how fierce or the amount of vulgarities hurled out, indirectly/directly at you, you will never get offended. No matter how difficult or tiring it is to get something for him/her, you will get it by hook or by crook. No matter what, as long as it involves him/her, you will be there.

When the table is turned around, he/she will never be there for you. Even if he/she does, it's often the case of just some simple consoling words which even though you knew it's just something to buy you off, you will still be comforted because it came from him/her. When you are alone and hope to head out for some fun, 8 out of 10 times, he/she will not be available, reason being that he/she is with their partner. When you gave him/her advice with regards to their relationship which even though appears to be not a worthy relationship, you get rebuked because he/she felt that you don't know what true love is all about and that you are not him/her, thus you can never understand. Despite getting hurt for things he/she did or say to you, you will not show your emotions out, all just because you wouldn't want to be the second burden to him/her.

The on and off fair weather treatment you get for falling with him/her, will eventually come to an end someday. And the outcome would be you are still who you are, and he/she will either get over the rough patch with his/her partner and continue with the relationship, or he/she will be with someone who came out of nowhere. At the end of the day, you felt cheated and yet you wouldn't blame on him/her or anything else, because you felt it's something you chose, and you will not live with regrets to it.

The movie came to an end with the audience feeling sad for the replacement lover. Some might deemed the replacement as someone stupid, whereas some might feel he/she is someone noble and giving. Whichever it is, the movie Replacement Lover is playing everyday in our routine lives. It could be you, your friend or someone you heard of.

Just like reading this post, you might not feel anything because you weren't once a replacement, the "Replacement Lover" movie might just be something you never really understand. But it's good thing though, because it's something no one will want to experience it. And if you think being a Replacement Lover is the worse you can get, try watching "Replacement's Replacement Lover", and that's when you will truly understand how fortune it is to be loved by someone than to love someone.

Till then.