MSN Nicks..

for some reasons, for the past few days, i saw a couple of
interesting nicks in msn which caught my eyes and they prompted
me to have some thoughts about it.. below are few of them and
what i feel about it..

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"luving others makes us happy..
but luving ourselves will make us lonely"

kinda interesting phrase.. i got what it could be for the 1st
part.. but for the last part.. i don't quite get it..

"luving others makes us happy":
well, that is so true for simply the reason that, if you love
someone.. you will be doing things, sacrificing your own free
time just for that special one.. and for all that you did..
you managed to add a lovely smile to him/her.. that's when you
will feel happy too..

"luving ourselves will make us lonely":
don't quite get this though, but i reckon that, it simply
means for which if we were to close ourselves up.. keep
others away from us.. be a selfish person who only care for
him/herself.. that's where you will feel that this world is
a lonely and cold one..

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"Smarter to be lucky or luckier to be smart.."

Simple as it is.. it has similar concept to chicken 1st or
egg 1st.. no correct or wrong answer.. for me as a personal
note.. i reckon most might just go for the latter.. but for
me, i will choose the former instead.. why? well, at least
for now, i felt that i just lack luck in many aspect of life..
haven't been getting the best of everything i do or want..
maybe i haven't been putting in enough effort.. or even maybe
it wasn't meant to be like what i wish to see or have.. but
nonetheless, i hope that my luck will change and i'll be a
happier person.. who will bring more fun and laughter to all
my friends..

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"Love is an emotion experienced by many, enjoyed by the few.."

how true can you get with this line?
recently, i've been following the channel 8, 9pm NFK variety
show.. and inside the show.. it has an interesting plot.. for
which a guy was in coma for 7 years after an accident and his
wife stood by him throughout that 7 solid years.. just before
he woke up.. the wife realised that her husband had cheated on
her just after their 1st year of marriage.. and for that she
has always thought that her husband was so ever faithful and
loved her so much.. and that all the while.. she's been carrying
the burden of taking care of the medical fees.. and looking
after their only daughter.. and the pressure she got from her
husband family.. all adds up and took a toll on her... she made
the divorce before her husband woke up..

and when the husband woke from his coma.. the accident has
caused him to be unable to talk, walk or behave like a normal
person.. and he was very eager to get back living like a
normal guy.. but the sad truth was that he didn't know his
wife has already made the divorce and was married to another
guy.. it wasn't about who let down on who first .. nor it
wasn't even a case of who's right or wrong..

i'm sure many of us experienced love before.. and how often
we enjoyed every single relationship we had? even though your
current relationship may seems stable and ever-loving.. how
many of us do really enjoyed it? and when there's a slightest
change in the situation.. what will happen next? but not to
worry about all these though, cause life's too short and
fragile to be so critical at all times.. just live the way
we want.. and love the one we cherish most.. the rest is just
"what if"..

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"Often we look so long at the closed door that we don't see
the one which has opened for us"

Nice nick.. the moment i saw this nick.. the 1st thing that
came to my mind was that.. it is refering to that we humans
tend to be rather stubborn at things? for that we often want
to get what we wanted and no matter how many times we have
already banged ourselves head-on to no avail.. we just don't
wish to give up on it.. and that all we have to do.. is just
to make a just a small slightest turn down the left or right..
and we can easily find a opened door for which we never even
bother to notice it..

stubborn at times is good.. so does it means that stubborn =
faithful? not really that connected.. but some will take it
as it is.. put it simple.. sometimes we should just go along
with the flow.. and be less closed up to alternatives and
options.. head-strong makes one less versatile to changes..

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that's all i have for the msn nick sharing.. but before i go..
let me leave you guys with a "Cactus" story i composed myself
weeks back, for a friend of mine..

Cactus

Sammy was very elated to recieved a cactus as his 7th
birthday present from his mum.. he was looking forward to
having one for quite some time.. and it became a special one
especially when he recieved it as his birthday present..

So, he wanted to put all his soul into it.. and to ensure that
the cacuts will grow up to a big healthy one.. he spent at least
an hour a day.. watering it every now and then.. changing the pot
at least once a week.. bought the best of the fertilizers for it..

the cactus started growing well and nice.. and he was so proud
of it.. he would bring it to school everyday.. and flaunt it to
his classmates.. and at times.. he will tie a ribbon or paste some
stickers on it.. for which he felt they will bring the best out
of the cactus's beauty..

just 2 months under his tender-loving-care.. one day.. Sammy woke
up and realised that the cactus is showing some signs of soreness
on its stem.. and its quite bloated.. he thought that the cactus
must be lacking water and fertilizers.. so he watered it even more
often than he used to.. and adding double the fertilizers.. he
make it a point to change the pot to a bigger one every alternate
days now..

and to continue to show off to his classmates, he would paste
stickers on the sore part to cover off.. and not long after that
the cactus finally died... Sammy was very upset.. and he cried for
days.. he brought the cactus to a gardener with tears still in his
eyes..

when the gardener saw Sammy and the cactus.. he asked him Sammy
to calm down and tell him what happened.. Sammy started explaining
his part and was insisting he put his best effort looking after it..

the gardener laughed out after hearing how Sammy look after the
cactus.. without saying much.. he brought Sammy to another area..
over there.. there's hundreds of well groom beautiful cactus lying
all around.. Sammy was shocked to see them all in the best of shape
and sizes..

so, Sammy pestered the gardener, asking him what secrets he have to
groom all the cactus.. the gardener simply said to Sammy,

"Well, i let the rain and shine do their jobs.. i don't add fertilizers
which are way uneccessary.. and i change their pots only every 3
months or so.. i never bring them out to flaunt them.. and i never
stress them with stickers or ribbons.. "

thinking that he already got what the gardener meant.. he brought
another cactus home.. this time round.. he wanted to prove that
he can do a good job.. so.. he placed the cactus outside his house..
letting it have the best of rain and shine..

realising that bring it to school often and all the stickers and
ribbons are doing harm to the cactus.. he stopped..

the cactus grew well this time.. and thus Sammy thought that he
doesn't really to take much care about it and it will continue
to grow well.. one day.. there's a renovation going on outside..
thus he brings in the cactus.. and he left it at a corner of his
room.. not long later.. he completely forgotten about it..

when his friend visited him months later.. he wanted to bring out
the cactus.. but the cactus is already dead.. but this time round,
he wasn't sad.. he didn't shed a tear.. instead he felt furious..
for that he thought he already followed the gardener's instruction..

Sammy brings the cactus back to the gardener and demanded an
explanation from him..

the gardener laughed out again upon hearing what he did this time..

"If you are lazy to check out our cactus every now and then, even
though you thought its already in a good condition.. why bother to
get one intially?"

"Why is your mood so different the first time you came here..
compared to now?"

"You cried because you put in alot of effort.. now when you don't,
you got angry things didn't work out your way.."

Sammy was speechless..

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This story kinda related to a relationship.. when you ain't got
one.. you are very much looking forward to it.. and thus when you
have one.. you will shower him/her with all the TLC.. sometimes
we over do it.. and of cos we don't realised it until its too late..

and on the other hand.. when we try to go easy with it.. taking for
granted things given/shown to us.. we end up the same as putting
in too much effort.. striking the balance is the toughest part to
do.. and the only way to do it.. is to handle a healthy relationship
and that's to communicate well with your partners.. letting him/her
know what's your thoughts.. don't bottled them down or hide it...

as for those not in a relationship.. try not to search too hard for
it.. and if you happen to have one day.. remember what Sammy did..


That's all folks.. and i realised...
Why am i here writing such a long post when i've got a paper tml?

till then.