When You Forget The Fundamentals

However, at some point in your relationship, you forgot how it all
began.

You start to take your partner for granted.

Why can't she laugh in a more ladylike manner?
Why doesn't she dress herself more trendily?
Why must she assert her views and point out your silly mistakes?
Is she really the one for you?

To be fair to yourself and to her, take some time to reflect on your
"love memory".

The "love memory' contains all the reasons that you fell in love
with her right from Day One.

It contains rarely accessed snippets of how your life has changed
since meeting and loving her.

Pre-steady days, did you heap compliments on her for the brave
way she spoke her mind on bullies and snobs?

You probably did.
Did you like her unusual fashion sense that makes her stand
out from the crowd?

Right-o.
So why are you criticising or finding fault with her now that she
is your girlfriend?

Because you have forgotten the fundamentals of love, like so
many of us.

You have forgotten the reasons you admired her during the
friendship phase.

Instead, once you went steady, you put your "love memory" in
cold storage.

As her boyfriend, you take up a new set of demands and
expectations about her.

These new ideas are not necessarily better; they could put your
relationship at risk.